40 Stories for 40 Years: Natalie Jones

by Emily Roberts | Aug 16, 2018

Natalie Jones had a good life, but when she became pregnant in 2009 things changed. She was laid off from her job, lost her car, was in the process of losing her home and her credit. On top of that, she started having problems with the father of her children when she found out that he was engaged to another woman. He and his fiancé would even write her letters telling her that she should end her life and the lives of her unborn twins.

After Natalie’s girls were born she forgave their father and gave him a chance to be a part of their lives. However, he began verbally abusing her and controlling all that she did.

“I was told I wasn’t good enough, I needed to make this or that change, and that my clothes were wrong. He even went as far as to criticize how I mothered my babies—nothing was up to his standards. He played mind-control games and used harsh words and extremely loud tones to intimidate me and my babies. From the time I knew I was pregnant in 2009 throughout 2010, I was reduced to a puppet, and he was the puppeteer.”

Although the abuse was never physical, Natalie’s mother encouraged her to come to The Family Place to meet with a counselor. She shared her story and enrolled that day.

“Each week I was with other ladies, young and old, of all races and socio-economic backgrounds, who’d experienced much more trauma than me. However, we all had the same common denominator—the perpetrator wanted control of us and he/she used words and body language to beat us down.”

Natalie says she didn’t realize how beaten down she was until she saw others going through similar situations. She eventually found her voice and became a survivor and now an advocate.

“I want everyone to know that it’s not just hitting someone that makes it domestic violence. Demeaning words, foul body language, questions of your integrity and character, non-support and withholding financial support that are done to manipulate, control, dominate and intimidate you are all types of domestic violence, too. Domestic violence can be mental, emotional, physical, financial, spiritual and sexual.”

Natalie picked up the pieces of her life. She became a licensed CPR trainer, is a Meals on Wheels vendor and is currently working on a dealership/title service. She is a member of Toastmasters and is the resident pastor of Zoë Church in Hutchins, TX serving under her mom, Dr. Brenda Jones. Her twins are now eight years old, and she even educates them about domestic violence so they will not become victims.