40 Stories for 40 Years: Patty Jones

by Emily Roberts | Dec 07, 2018

In 1986 Patty married a man that she had no idea was an abuser. After their marriage, he began to hit her in the head and body, but only where bruises would not be visible. Then he slammed a car door on her face, shattering the bones in her jaw, which required her jaw to be wired shut for six months.

After becoming pregnant, the abuse got worse. He often kicked her in her stomach, eventually leading to premature labor and the loss of her baby. The trauma led to a stroke and severely affected her eyesight. She received five blood transfusions and was in a coma for two months. Doctors told her family on two occasions that she would not survive, but her mother never accepted this and begged the doctors to do all that they could. When Patty came out of the coma, she needed two months of intense rehab to learn to walk, read and talk again. The abuse left her with epilepsy and occasional blindness where she loses her vison for up to 15 minutes at time. But with the love and support of her family, she recovered.

Patty’s family knew that she needed counseling, and her sister found The Family Place. Through counseling, Patty was equipped with the tools to understand what she had been through and learned that she was not to blame for the abuse she suffered.

In 2006 Patty wanted to give back to the organization that she said had given her so much. She became a volunteer at our Battering Intervention and Prevention Program office, performing clerical duties and sharing her story of abuse and recovery. In 2013 she became a full-time administrative assistant at The Family Place.

“I am so proud to be a member of The Family Place family,” Patty says. “It is important for me to set a warm and open tone for our clients so that they know we are here to serve them and help them overcome abusive situations. The most wonderful moments working here come when I see the smiles on our clients faces after receiving the services they need.”

With help from The Family Place, Patty has built a full life following her abuse. She remarried and has been with her husband for 24 years. She has an adult son and grandchildren. She is also a motivational speaker and life coach, and has a website called You Know Me because she knows there is a “me” in many families.